I’d like to say it’s nice sharing interests with someone you love. That gaming is the perfect way to strengthen your bond with another. While it is convenient in the first year of your relationship, it will quickly grow tiresome and old. You may realize that you have completely opposite taste in games, or worse maybe he’s a console halo fanatic, lord help us then.
It can be stressing on a relationship while he’s playing a game and you actually want to go out. He’s addicted. You know since you’ve seen that look before on yourself. You can’t just yell and get mad when he doesn’t want to get up and leave because you understand that passion- that drive to slay the next dragon. It’s that understanding that isn’t fair. So, you end up booting up your computer to play a game, only to realize the only game you want to play is in his laptop.
Even when playing matches together little fights can emerge from the shadows. If either of you end up costing the match the other, especially it’s the woman, will never let it go. Being competitive in nature, each gamer wants to rein supreme champion of [insert-game-title-here], thus the one with the most kills, coins, or other object worthy of being collected will not only win the game but be the MVP.
For instance, when playing League of Legends with my boyfriend we have a rule; NEVER lane together. Not only does it prevent us from raging at each other, but it stops us from trying to grab all the kills. I might be playing support and he the AD carry, and we all know feeding the Sona will do next to nothing to help win the game.
Bragging rights, while they can make you feel like your the Duke- who just walked into yet another strip club, can make the loser feel like the poor sap who actually paid $60 for that game. By the end of the night you’ll realize that gaming together does nothing more than help you stay together. Both of you are able to partake in something wonderful, without the other judging and criticizing your hobby lifestyle. You’ll be able to explore countless worlds and discover a myriad of things to do in them with, hopefully, your best friend.
Seriously though, I’m hiding Skyrim next week! He doesn’t need to know of its glory! Besides I remember what happened when he got Dragon Age…
and then again when he got Dragon Age 2.
This is interesting. I find this to be the case with gamers who are in relationships, if they are hardcore gamers.
My girlfriend and I like to play together. At her father’s, with his PS3, we play LittleBigPlanet. At my place, with my Wii, we play Just Dance. I’m proud to say I’m a casual gamer (most of the time).
and I will further my point with this little tidbit. One game I will never NOT be competitive in is Super Smash Bros. She and I played it once, when I brought her to a tournament with me, and it did not go well. It was her first time playing, and I’m considered one of the pros in my area.
My advice to any gamer couples, if you both like competition, avoid playing those games together. If only one of you is competitive, then have some decency and cool down for the other. If you’re both casual, then there should be nothing to worry about. It’s just fun.
That’s great advice!
Glad to hear you guys enjoy playing with each other, outside of that Smash Bros. incident. I lose to my boyfriend at Just Dance all the time, I hate losing so much :/
Co-Op games are what we tend to gravitate towards.
Don’t feel bad about the Just Dance thing. I beat her at Just Dance every time, too.